I forgot my husband’s name. Well, he wasn’t my husband at the time, but he was soon to be. We had just met and I introduced him to my friend by the wrong name. “This is Chris,” I said. “Actually,” he said, “my name’s Colin.” Awkward! But he did ask me to marry him two months later.
All my life I’ve thought I was just a really bad listener. When someone tells me his or her name, I seem to forget it almost immediately. I’ve tried really hard to listen and concentrate, and even repeat their name out loud after they’ve told me, but a couple of minutes later I’ve no recollection of their name. Even worse is having to introduce a group of people, especially people I have known for a long time, as I have a hard time remembering their names. Panic sets in as I struggle to retrieve from my memory the names of my best friends.
Living in the United States exacerbates the problem! I’ve noticed that Americans, when they meet you in passing, are very good at saying “Hello ____________ (fill in the blank with your name). It just rolls off their tongue so easily. I can only splutter back an embarrassed “Hello, err…” There’s nothing there! My mind is blank! If I had a bit more time I could probably come up with their name. But by then, they’ve passed me and gone.
Following another trip to the Gabrieli Lab for child number three to take part in the reading assessment, I wonder if my inability to remember names is a symptom of dyslexia that I never knew I had? I hesitate in writing this because if my children read this then I know they will be blaming my gene pool!
At the Gabrieli Lab, it was my turn to complete a questionnaire about my own reading ability, family history and… capacity to remember numbers, names and addresses. Well, it was quite revealing! I had to circle the highest score, that signified “most difficult”, to the questions on my ability to remember phone numbers, names and addresses. I also had to admit that my spelling wasn’t that great. Perhaps, after all these years of stressing over my incompetence to do these things, I do have a valid excuse. Spell checkers are a great way to overcome poor spelling, but finding a strategy to overcome poor recollection of names is a different matter.